5 Things Every Mormon Should Have On Their Dating List.
Everyone has a dating list of things they are looking for. Some lists are good, some are awful. I have talked with girls who have admitted they’d turn down a good guy if he was shorter than they are. Or if he was not a pre-med student. And I have met guys who would never date a girl if she was not unhealthily skinny. Or if she was not an RM. Instead of focusing on what you should NOT include in your lists I want to focus on 5 things every Mormon should have on their dating list.
*It is important to remember that these attributes and characteristics are developed over time. Do not be unrealistic and expect someone who is perfect in all of these things. Instead look for someone who exhibits them, strives for them, and works towards them.
“I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife.”
~Elder Richard G. Scott
1st. Someone Who Is Loyal To God.
This one is huge. Most people think that they need to put their spouse first, but God really needs to be number one. This will ground them to their core principles of honesty, faith, sacrifice, forgiveness, and most of all their commitment to keeping their promises. You not only need to find someone who puts God first but also someone who will not begrudge you for putting God ahead of them. In all things, our covenants to God must come first.
Ask yourself, if I was to die, would they raise my family in the faith? A big secret in successful marriages is something called the marriage triangle, God is at the top and husband and wife are at the bottom corners. As a husband and wife draw closer to God they actually draw closer to their spouse.
Happy couples put God first. But after God, your spouse should be a solid #2. No one and nothing else, other than God, should come before your spouse. Too many Millennials are selfish, they put themselves before others, and even before God. This attitude will destroy any relationship. Lasting marriages have men and women who have put God first, but their spouse in front of themselves. They forgive each other, they serve, love, and desire to make their spouse feel happy and loved. So when you find the one who puts God first and you second, you’ve found the right one.
“Believe that your faith has everything to do with your romance, because it does. You separate dating from discipleship at your peril.”
~Jeffrey R. Holland.
Read points 2-5 at My life by Gogo Goff.