True, there are some marriages that have experienced tremendous trauma (such as abuse, infidelity, and neglect). In order to find happiness, those marriages likely need the help of a trained therapist. Gratefully, for the rest of us, we actually get to decide how happy we want to be within our marriage.

Don’t believe me?? Well, read on!

We Decide if We will Give our Spouse the Benefit of the Doubt 

In happier marriages, couples seem to have a positive filter that influences the way that they respond to each other – even during times where offense, frustration, disappointment, or anger would be natural responses. Dr. John Gottman refers to this as positive sentiment override.

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