In his Facebook post, Millar shares 18 lessons he learned from his experience of leaving and then returning to the LDS faith.
Lesson No. 1: Cynicism creates a numbness toward life
“I found this to be true. Just read the definition for cynicism: ‘An attitude of scornful or jaded negativity, especially a general distrust of the integrity or professed motives of others.’ I mean, who wants to live a life like that? I’ve noticed a pattern with those who have walked the same path I did in leaving my faith. Not all, but many, seem to fit this description. I was there; I’ve felt this way. I know.
“Author Paul E. Miller said, ‘Cynicism begins with a wry assurance that everyone has an angle. Behind every silver lining is a cloud. The cynic is always observing, critiquing but never engaging, loving and hoping.’
“Instead of assuming the worst in people or faiths, assume the best. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Honest skepticism is very different from cynicism. Finding out the truth and assuming the best are not mutually exclusive. Both can be done, and sincere, honest questions can be asked and answered. Look for the good in all things in life, and something magical will happen: You’re likely to find just that — good, happiness, joy and light.”
To read the other 17 lessons he learned, check out the DeseretNews.com